Change your take on things from never to eventually.
Recently a Medium friend of mine “lost her virginity” (her words) when for the very first time one of her pieces received Medium curation. I’m so proud for her and hope she gets “laid” (my words) a bunch more times.
Her announcement got me thinking though. Had she not continued writing, had she convinced herself curation was never going to happen and pulled back on the reins she’d have been right.
It would never have happened.
Instead, she soldiered on. Each time she published she told herself curation would or could eventually happen.
And it did.
She and I have discussed the topic of curation on several occasions. In fact we, along with several artists on this platform, have written pieces about the benefits — or lack thereof — of having an article curated. We’ve commiserated with the writing community through humor and sometimes frustrated bewilderment about the curation process. How it happens for some, but never for others.
But the topic of curation aside, everything a writer does is tied to one thing, the main thing each of us think about and practice each day.
This crazy little thing called writing…
What we do is tough as hell. There’s a line in Queen’s We Are The Champions sung by front man Freddy Mercury which best describes our writing journey.
“but it’s been no bed of roses, no pleasure cruise.”
There will be days (had one this past Monday and it sucked…bad) when you’ll ask yourself what the hell you’re doing this stuff for.
Oh wait, it get’s worse.
Next, you’ll tell yourself you’re never going to hit the mark. You’ll tell yourself you’re never going to make any money at this. How could you? You’ll never write well enough to gather thousands of followers and readers on Medium. Even though you think you’ve written some really good pieces you’ll tell yourself people are never going to read them.
Never, never, never, NEVER, NEVER.
Keep using the word never when you think about your writing and guess what happens?
You got it. You stop.
That’s because never is a stop word.
The word by definition denotes an infinite timeline, but the sad truth about never is it’s usually tied to a negative mind set. Never reminds us to stop trying because we’re never going to get where we want to go. We’re never going to get what we want.
Stop trying, you’ll NEVER get there.
On the other side of the coin, success, although fleeting and difficult to obtain, can and does happen. My Medium friend has proven this fact concretely. She continued to write telling herself eventually curation would happen and by George it did.
Eventually is a call to action word. A word which tells us to keep moving forward.
Just like never it also denotes a timeline, but it suggests a positive, hope springs eternal, it will happen someday, thought process.
Eventually we’re going to get where we want to go.
Eventually we’re going to get what we want.
Eventually, we will succeed.
Don’t get me wrong folks, there are times — and I know them all too well — when eventually seems so far down the road in the distant future you’ll begin to think you’ll never get there. You’ll begin to think everything you’re doing is simply a waste of time.
All we have to do is change the word choice of never to eventually folks. We’re writers, we can do this.
Stop using the word never when you think of what you’re doing. Substitute never for eventually and continue moving forward.
Success will happen.
It’s just a matter of time.
And here’s the great part. This attitude shift doesn’t only apply to writing.
Change your thought process from never to eventually…
And eventually you’ll end up being a success at anything you attempt.
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